A Triangle of Forbidden Love
Birdy, I went to the school prom last night with my long term girlfriend, Meg. We have been going out for a year now and I guess it is pretty serious.
We all head up to college soon and Meg and I will attend separate colleges. I'm not sure it will last while we are so far apart. But that's not why I am writing to you.
There's a guy I'm on the swimming team with. He is called Jonny. He is a really good friend. He dragged me off to the bathroom to tell me something. I left Meg alone and went with Jonny. He told me he was gay. He said he has been in love with me for two years. I punched him real hard and ran out.
The problem is, I feel the same. I just couldn't admit it so I hurt him. When Meg asked what was wrong I said nothing. I felt really sick and decided to go home. I walked back - over two miles. On the way, I saw Jonny. At first, he was scared. But then started talking, then we started to laugh but then we kissed. It was nothing like kissing Meg, and something stirred, if you know what I mean. Now Meg is mad at me and Jonny is texting me non-stop asking me to forget it all. I really don't know what to do.
Hey there, Eric
It sounds like you're going through a whirlwind of emotions right now. First and foremost, take a deep breath. It's okay to feel confused and overwhelmed.
Let's address the situation step by step. First, with Meg, it's important to have an honest and open conversation. Let her know what happened with Jonny and that you're trying to process your feelings. Long-distance relationships can be tough, but it's crucial to be upfront about your concerns. See if you both can have a heartfelt discussion about the future and whether you want to try to make it work in college.
Next, with Jonny, remember that he's also going through a lot right now. Be gentle with him and explain that you're sorting out your emotions too. It's essential to be honest and communicate with each other, even if it's difficult. Let him know that you value his friendship and want to support him during this time.
Take some time to reflect on your feelings and what you want. It's okay to feel unsure, but rushing into decisions can lead to more confusion and hurt.
Remember, you don't have to figure everything out immediately. Reach out to friends or family you trust for support and guidance. Talking about your feelings can be a helpful way to gain clarity.
In the end, be true to yourself and what feels right for you. Don't forget that it's okay to explore and discover who you are and what you want in life.
Take care, and remember that you don't have to face this alone.
Wishing you strength and clarity,