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Am I a Narcissist

Dear Birdy,

Birdy, I've looked it up but I want to know if I am a narcissist. Recently two of my friends said I was and they said I am 'toxic'. We are all girls in the same class - believe it or not, we are all 18 and in college. We decided to come to the same one after school as we've been friends forever. Now, I am alone. Because we three go everywhere together, I've made no other friends and I'm worried it is too late. I have taken those tests online and none of them says I'm toxic or a narcissist. What should I do, Tillie, PA.


Hey Tillie,

It's brave of you to confront these feelings and seek understanding. Firstly, don't panic just yet. It's not uncommon for friends to have disagreements or to feel hurt by each other's actions at times. It doesn't necessarily mean you're a narcissist or toxic.

It's essential to remember that online tests can only give you a general idea and should not be the sole basis for self-diagnosis. If you're genuinely concerned about your behavior or how you're impacting your friendships, consider talking to a mental health professional. They can help you gain deeper insights into your thoughts and feelings and guide you through this process.

In the meantime, try to have an open and honest conversation with your friends. Express your feelings and let them know that you value your friendship and want to understand their concerns. Communication is key to resolving conflicts and strengthening relationships.

If it turns out that some of your behaviors have been negatively affecting your friendships, use this as an opportunity for personal growth. Be open to feedback and take the time to reflect on your actions and how you can improve.

Don't worry about making new friends at college. It's never too late to connect with new people. Join clubs or organizations that interest you, and you'll likely find others who share your passions and hobbies.

Remember, we all have the power to change and grow. Be kind to yourself and take small steps towards building healthier and more meaningful relationships.

Wishing you the best of luck on this journey of self-discovery,

Birdy

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