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I am a Second Class Step Child

Hi Birdy,

I used to think it was cool to have a mixed family. I live with my Dad with my brother and with his new wife's three children. We moved into their house but now it seems we are second-class citizens there. The final straw was when they announced a holiday but then Dad quietly explained he couldn't take me because I am too old to enjoy Disney. I am 17. My brother, David, doesn't care since he is always out. It's my last year with my dad before I leave for the Navy, where I've chosen to pursue a career. Should I just accept the situation? Diana Mt

Hey Diana,

It's understandable that you're feeling hurt and frustrated in this situation. Feeling like a second-class citizen in your own home can be tough to handle.

It's essential to communicate your feelings with your dad and stepmother. They might not fully understand how their actions are impacting you. Express your desire to spend time together as a family and how their decisions have made you feel left out.

Your last year with your dad before you leave for the Navy is precious, and it's okay to want to create positive memories together. Talk to him about your plans for the future and how you'd like to make the most of your time together before you leave.

If they still don't include you in their plans, consider reaching out to other family members or friends to create memorable experiences during this time.

Remember that change and blended families can be challenging to navigate, but it doesn't mean you're not valued or loved. Keep your focus on your goals and dreams for your future in the Navy, and remember that you have the power to create a fulfilling life for yourself.

Take care, Diana, and know that you're not alone in this journey.

Wishing you strength and positive moments with your dad,


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