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I Love my Sisters Boyfriend but is he Gay like me


I'm in love with my sister's boyfriend and I think he likes me. The problem is, I am gay but not out and I am quite a few years younger. I don't want to upset anyone but walking away is not an option. We all work in my folk's store so we are stuck there. I'm thinking of talking to Eric, what do you think? Simon, SC

Hey Simon,

I can understand that this is a complicated and sensitive situation. It's important to tread carefully, as emotions and relationships are involved.

Before making any decisions, consider a few things. Firstly, think about your sister's feelings and how she might react to the situation. Revealing your feelings to her boyfriend could potentially cause hurt and tension within your family dynamic.

It's also essential to take your own emotions into account. Being gay and not out can add another layer of complexity to this situation. Coming out is a personal decision, and you should do it when you feel ready and comfortable.

Talking to Eric might be tempting, but think about the potential consequences and the impact it could have on all involved. It may be better to explore your feelings and emotions with a close friend or a counselor who can provide unbiased support.

As you all work together, it's crucial to maintain a respectful and professional atmosphere. Avoid any actions that could jeopardize your relationships and the dynamics within your family and workplace.

Remember, being true to yourself and respectful of others' feelings is key. Take some time to reflect on your feelings and what you want in the long term. Seeking guidance from someone you trust or a professional could also be helpful during this time.

Take care, Simon, and know that you have the power to navigate through this challenging situation.

Wishing you strength and clarity,


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