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My Brother is a Bully

Hi Birdy,

I attend the same college as my brother, Dillon, who joined a year before me. It turns out he has a terrible reputation as a of women and he often bullies others... I've seen him do it. Before, Dillon was a nice boy, and we got on well. People avoid me because they seem to think I'm just like my brother. I was, but I can't believe he has changed so much. Should I apply to another college?
Sara, PA


Hey Sara,

It's tough when the actions of a family member can affect your own reputation, especially when they've changed so much from how they used to be. I can imagine how frustrating and hurtful this situation must be for you.

Before making any decisions about changing colleges, take some time to reflect on what you want and what's best for your own growth and well-being. Consider talking to your brother about the changes you've noticed in him and how his actions are affecting you and others.

If you still feel uncomfortable at your current college and it's negatively impacting your experience, exploring other college options might be worth considering. Going to a different college could provide a fresh start and an opportunity to build your own identity and relationships without the shadow of your brother's reputation.

No matter what you decide, remember that you are not defined by your brother's actions. You are your own person, with your own values and choices. Surround yourself with supportive friends and find activities or clubs where you can connect with like-minded people who appreciate you for who you are.

Stay true to yourself, Sara, and trust your instincts when making important decisions. You have the power to shape your own future and create a positive path for yourself.

Wishing you clarity and strength as you navigate through this challenging situation,

Birdy

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