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My Dad will not Cuddle Me Anymore

Dear Birdy,

Can you help me. I used to be super close to my Dad but he seems to be losing interest in me. I'm headed toward 17 and he tells me not to try and sit on his lap and doesnt hug me so much. I don't know what I've done but I'm worried it is a one-way road to not speaking to him at all. I'm off to college soon and I'm afraid that will end our once really good relationship. Anna-May, VA

Hey Anna-May,

I can understand how you must be feeling, and it's tough when relationships change over time. It's essential to remember that as we grow older, our relationships with our parents naturally evolve.

Heading toward 17 and preparing for college are significant milestones, and both you and your dad may be experiencing a mix of emotions during this transition. It's possible that he's trying to give you space to grow and become more independent.

While it might feel like he's losing interest, it's essential to communicate openly with him about how you're feeling. Have a heartfelt conversation with your dad and express your concerns. Let him know that you value your relationship and would like to maintain your connection even as you enter a new phase in your life.

College can be a fantastic opportunity for growth and exploration, and it doesn't necessarily mean your relationship with your dad will end. You can still make an effort to keep in touch and share your experiences with each other.

Remember that change is a natural part of life, and it's okay to feel a mix of emotions during this time. Cherish the memories you've shared with your dad and stay open to building a new, different, and equally valuable connection with him in the future.

Take care, Anna-May, and know that you're not alone in navigating these changes.

Wishing you all the best as you prepare for college,


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