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My Mom and My Baby It is a Mess

Hi Birdy,

I am a really young mother after falling pregnant with a cute guy who I went to school with. He went away to college and now I'm stuck at home with the baby and my mother who demeans and belittles me in front of others. She says I've ruined my life, her life and that of Tom's, my baby's father. Tom has disowned me and the child. Why does my mum stick up for him and how can I get myself out of this awful situatio?
Tess, CA.

Hey Tess,

I'm really sorry to hear about the tough situation you're facing. It's essential to remember that becoming a young mother doesn't define your worth or potential in life. You have a beautiful baby who needs love and care, and you deserve support and understanding during this time.

It can be incredibly challenging when family members don't offer the support we need. Your mom's reaction might be influenced by her own fears and worries, but that doesn't excuse demeaning or belittling you. Consider talking to her about how her words are affecting you and the baby. Express your feelings and let her know that you need her support and encouragement.

While it's unfortunate that Tom has disowned you and the baby, remember that you are not alone in this journey. Reach out to friends, other family members, or support organizations that can provide assistance and guidance. Surround yourself with people who uplift and care for you and the baby.

If possible, explore resources like parenting classes, support groups, or counseling to help you navigate through this challenging time. You don't have to go through this alone, and there are people who can help you build a better future for yourself and your child.

Focus on being the best mom you can be, and know that it's never too late to pursue your dreams and goals. With time and determination, you can create a bright future for yourself and your child.

Take care, Virginia, and remember that you are stronger than you think.

Wishing you strength and hope,


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