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My Mom is a Drunk

Dear Birdy

Me and my mom have been alone since my dad left us when I was just 2. Since then I have not seen him. Actually, that was fine until just recently. I came home early from college and found my mom absolutely drunk. The house was a mess. When I confronted her about her drinking - she's always drunk a few glasses of wine of an evening - but it turns out she is the town drunk.

She cried when she told me and she added, I wish she hadn't, that she is known for being a drunk all over town. Money has always been tight so I asked her how she was feeding her habit. She finally confessed she's gone through my entire college fund - or nearly has - and she couldn't help herself. My mom has been a wonderful parent but now I wonder if it was all a lie. More worrying, I might have to leave college. Any good advice for me, Birdy, I am really worried.

Kevin



Dear Kevin,

I'm so sorry to hear about the tough situation you're facing with your mom. It must be incredibly overwhelming and heartbreaking to discover her struggles with alcohol and the impact it's had on your college fund.

First and foremost, remember that you are not responsible for your mom's actions. Addiction is a complex issue, and it can be challenging for individuals to overcome on their own. However, there is hope, and seeking professional help for your mom's drinking problem could be beneficial.

As for your college fund, consider talking to your college's financial aid office or a counselor about your situation. They might be able to provide guidance and options to help you continue your education, even if your current funds are depleted. Don't give up on your dreams because of this setback.

It's completely understandable to feel hurt and question your past experiences with your mom. Remember that addiction is a disease that can affect anyone, and it doesn't diminish the love and care she provided you throughout your life. Your mom is still the same person who raised you, but she needs support and assistance to overcome this difficult time.

Reach out to friends, family, or counselors for support during this challenging period. Surrounding yourself with a support system can help you cope with your emotions and make informed decisions about your future.

Lastly, take care of yourself during this difficult time. It's okay to feel a mix of emotions, and seeking counseling or therapy could be beneficial for your well-being.

Stay strong, [Your Name], and remember that there are resources and help available to guide you through this tough situation. You are not alone, and with time and support, things can improve.

Wishing you strength and hope,

Birdy

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