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My Mom is Messing around with my Step Brother Shall I Tell my Dad

Dear Birdy

I am sure my mom has been having an affair with my dad's older son from a previous marriage. I found out when we were all on a big family holiday. Late one night, I sneaked out to meet up with a boy I really like the look of - he was staying at the same big hotel down in Florida. I saw my Mom kissing Brendan and it was really passionate.

Should I tell my dad?
Love your books, KK, C.A.

Hey KK,

First of all, I'm glad you enjoy the books! Now, let's talk about the situation you're facing with your parents.

Discovering that your mom might be having an affair can be really difficult and confusing. It's essential to take some time to process your feelings and thoughts before deciding on any actions.

Before jumping to any conclusions or seeking revenge, consider having a calm and private conversation with your mom about what you saw. Communication is vital in resolving conflicts and understanding each other's perspectives.

You might be feeling hurt and angry right now, but it's important to approach the situation with a level head. If you don't feel comfortable talking directly to your mom, consider speaking with another trusted adult, like a relative or family friend, for guidance and support.

Remember, it's not your responsibility to fix your parents' relationship or take sides. It's okay to have your feelings, but try to focus on your own well-being and emotional health during this challenging time.

I encourage you to think carefully before making any decisions about telling your dad. Consider the potential consequences and how it might impact your family dynamic. If you're unsure about what to do, seeking professional advice from a counselor or therapist could be helpful.

Take care of yourself, KK, and remember that you have support available to help you navigate through this situation. Things might be tough now, but with time and understanding, it will get better.

Wishing you strength and guidance,


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