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Should I Sleep with the Boyfriend I do not Fancy

Dear Birdy,

Birdy, please help me. I am concerned i won't feel anything when I finally agree to sleep with my boyfriend who has been begging me for ages. In truth, I just like to have a boyfriend at school because it gets me through situations like parties and proms. In truth, I don't really fancy him at all. I'm off to college soon but I wonder if I should give him his wish since he has been like a loyal dog for the past two years. Honey, MA


Hey Honey,

It's important to listen to your instincts and prioritize your feelings and well-being. If you're not truly attracted to your boyfriend and have reservations about sleeping with him, it's essential to be honest with yourself and with him.

You should never feel pressured to do something you're not comfortable with, especially when it comes to intimacy. Being in a relationship should be about mutual respect and understanding, and it's okay to communicate your feelings honestly.

If you're not sure about your feelings or your level of attraction to him, it might be best to take some time to reflect on what you truly want. College is just around the corner, and it's an opportunity for new experiences and meeting new people.

It's okay to end a relationship that isn't fulfilling or doesn't align with your feelings and goals. Being honest with your boyfriend about your feelings can be difficult, but it's the right thing to do for both of you.

Remember, you deserve to be with someone who truly values and respects you, and who you have a genuine connection with. Don't settle for less just because you've been together for a certain amount of time.

Take care of yourself, Honey, and remember that it's okay to prioritize your own happiness and well-being.

Wishing you clarity and strength as you navigate through this,

Birdy

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