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Step Kids Demand Money

Dear Birdy,

My step kids nag me for money. I am only doing a little part time job in a shop and it does not pay much, this money is supposed to pay the rent. The kids know I love them and love being part of a family but I feel they do not understand about money and that I work for that reason. A few days ago they told me they wanted me to pay for them to go on a school trip, it is a trip abroad for a week so quite expensive. When I said I was sorry but cannot afford it they turned hostile and shouted at me and said I am a terrible step mother. This made me very sad. I found out a few days later that they had asked my husband and his mother and had already got the money off them but were trying to get it off of me too! They are lovely kids, and it is wonderful to be part of a family, but how can I get them to love me and like me without giving them every penny I earn and that we need for the rent?

Marie


Hey there, Marie,

Step-parenting can be quite the adventure, especially when it comes to navigating the tricky waters of money. It sounds like you're doing your best to juggle your part-time job and make ends meet. Kudos to you for that!

Now, let's address the money-hungry step-kiddos. It's important for them to understand that money doesn't grow on trees, and you have responsibilities to take care of. Explaining the concept of finances to kids can be as challenging as untangling a ball of yarn, but fear not, my friend. There's hope!

Take some time to sit down with your step-kids and have a heart-to-heart talk about money. Help them understand that you work to support the family and pay the rent. Explain that while you love them dearly, there are limitations to what you can afford.

As for that school trip they were hankering after, it's quite the globetrotting adventure, but not one that fits within your budget. It's completely okay to say no when something isn't financially feasible. Remember, being a step-parent doesn't mean you have to empty your pockets to prove your love.

Now, here's a sneaky trick: Find alternative ways to show your love and care. Spend quality time with them, engage in activities together, and create cherished memories. Love isn't measured by the size of your wallet, but by the kindness and support you offer.

And hey, keep that chin up! Being a step-parent is no easy feat, but as long as you're there, showing love and doing your best, you're doing an amazing job. So, embrace the journey, find creative ways to bond, and let your love shine through without breaking the bank.

Wishing you a harmonious and budget-friendly step-parenting adventure,

Birdy

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